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About a week ago a man who I have seen around my neighbourhood struck up a conversation with me at the bus stop. He started by saying hello and made small talk about the weather and the infrequency of the busses. I engaged in the small talk thinking he was just being friendly. He then followed me to the back of the bus and sat right next to me. This made me uncomfortable especially because he kept shyly glancing at me throughout the bus ride but not saying anything. So I asked him if he is on his way to work and he told me he works at a Turkish restaurant (Turquaz Kebab House) and I should visit him there sometime telling me the location. He asked me if I was on my way to work and I nodded but didn’t tell him where. The next day he was also at the bus stop and came over to say hi. When I got on the bus he followed but I found my friend on that bus and sat next to her. He stared at me the whole time then followed me off the bus. I ignored him and walked with my friend to get a coffee.
The following day I walked to my bus stop using a different route and he happen to be waiting for me at the lights. He started to walk in my direction as soon as he saw me. At this point I thought this was a coincidence since he commutes to work and must have a similar schedule. I got on the bus and sat next to my friend who happened to be on the bus again. He got off the same stop as me and hovered around me. I waved bye to him and carried on my way. The following day I had an appointment and took the train to work instead so I did not run into this man.
Yesterday, I walked my usual route although 10 minutes late and as soon as I walked by Wild Earth Cafe I hear the door quickly open and the man walk out. He greets me commenting that we have the same timing. This tipped off my spidey senses. I replied coldly saying it is odd and that he must have missed his bus standing in the cafe. He made some excuse saying they took forever making his coffee and yet he did not have a coffee in his hand. We then waited at the bus stop where he stood close to me and had nothing to say. I stepped away from him. He then asked me if I like swimming and have I been to WEM wave pool. I nodded then looked in the direction of the bus. He then asked me if I like to go there and I said I prefer the ocean. He then just stared at me not saying anything.
He said he works in the west end but whenever the 7 bus arrives he will get on whichever bus I get on such as the 57 or the 81, which stops at a different destination. Even when he is on the 7 bus he will get off at my stop. This particular day I was super creeped out realizing he waits for me in Wild Earth Cafe. So I waited for him to get on the bus first so I could find a seat away from him. I also hopped off the first bus stop downtown as the doors were about to close so he wouldn’t follow me. I then saw him get off the bus a couple of stops ahead. I changed my route to work cutting through buildings to avoid him. I was telling a coworker about him when she realized I was talking about the same guy who used to harass and follow her at the same bus stop. He hugged her and tried to kiss her and was angry when he found out she has a boyfriend. He tried to buy her coffee and followed her to work from the bus stop. If she ignored him he would get upset. She has completely changed her routine to avoid him.
Today my fiancé walked me to the bus stop. We stopped in Wild Earth Cafe to see if he was in there waiting. We ordered food and left for the bus stop with no sightings of him. As we sat on the bus bench for about five minutes he appeared from around the corner of Wild Earth Cafe and crossed 99 street to the bus stop. He waited behind us from a distance leaning against the wall of Todd’s Cleaners. When my fiancé glared in his direction to get a good look at him the man ducked around the corner of that building watching us. He was quite far from the bus stop and even walked down the street turning back to continue standing behind us. He looked blank. When the bus arrived I waited until he got on and I then stood at the front of the bus by the driver. He sat at the nearest seat to me and stared at me without any expression on his face. When I got off the bus I ran to the nearest public building and hid. I then ran to work.
I am not sure how much longer this will continue. It sucks because I live right by the bus stop and am on edge. Hopefully now that he saw me with my partner he will quit bothering me and I will soon be off his radar.
He appears to be in his early to mid 30’s about 5’10 and wears a black wool coat. He has hair cropped along the sides with more volume on top. He at first seems like a nice person wanting to chat. It took a few days to realize how creepy he is.
I’m a university of Alberta PhD student, from India, third year in Edmonton. I was walking home after dinner with my girlfriend and another friend from China on Whyte ave at about 11:00. A bunch of random guys (6-7 people) walking in same direction as we were started with the name calling and one guy dropping his pants in front of us. It escalated to one of them trying to fight with my friend (he walked around him and avoided it) and then to throwing cigarette butts and talks about spitting. This was the point when I told them to leave us alone ( “buddy, do you really want to do this? Leave us alone” was the words I used). Not really sure what sort of expression on my face, but they tried to justify that their friend was drunk and ultimately they left us alone. Followed by that delightful experience, there another incident of throwing cigarette butts at my girlfriend in front of O’Briens Pub by a different guy. We ignored this guy completely. Ultimately we did reach home safely. However, I cant help but feel disappointed at the situation. I do expect this situation in India and avoid shady neighborhoods at night; however, a popular street in Canada at 11:00 is an entirely different story.
In case anyone is in a similar situation, the recommended thing to do from the websites I read is:
1. Assertively respond to the harassers calmly, firmly, and without insults or personal attacks to let them know that their actions are unwelcome, unacceptable, and wrong.
2. Report to Police or Transit Workers: Take actions that will create real consequences for the harasser, such as reporting the person to a police officer or other person of authority, like a bus driver or subway employee.
So this isn’t street harassment per say but on Monday, November 2nd 2015 I was sexually assaulted by a man in his late 30s in the back of his car. Things started consensually but he started to get rough and tried to choke me and I tried to stop him because that was not okay. He then physically assaulted and sexually assaulted me without a condom. I was working as a sex worker up until that night convinced me to stop but its still not okay. To any girls reading this, this man has brown hair and brown eyes with a spider web tattoo on his left shoulder and another tattoo on his left thigh that says Fuck You made very crudely. He is between 6’2 and 6’5. Heavier set and was driving a black car with a scratch on the passenger side. He was wearing jeans and sneakers and a grey beer shirt that said Coors on it. If you see this man please please please run away from him. He is a violent predator. If he approaches you call the police.no comments
Near a bus stop waiting for the number 5 a woman with intellectual disabilities was yelled at and threatened by a male about 40 years of age. They both got on the bus and the transit operator said nothing as the harassment continued on the train.
I was riding the C-train in the morning on my way to work. A man got on the train and immediately got in my personal space – the train car was virtually empty and he stepped right beside me and pretended to be reading the newspaper on the seat next to me. I stood up (as I was uncomfortable) and went to stand by the door across the aisle from him as my stop was next anyway. He said something along the lines of “I scared her” and then walked across toward me and sat next to the door I was at. He was then looking at me in a way that made me extremely unnerved, so I walked away again toward the other door closer to other people. He continued to look my way and mumble, and threw the paper he was holding very hard across the train. I was very worried that he would follow me off the train. Fortunately, I ignored him, and got off without him following. I am confident that if I had not removed myself from his vicinity, and had there not been other people around, things would have escalated.
The man was tall (around 6’2” or so) and was quite broad. I worry about encountering him again on my morning commute, and I think it’s unacceptable that I felt unsafe just trying to get to work.
While waiting for the bus home a man in either his late 40’s or early 50’s started talking to me at the bus stop and asking if I was a girl or a boy. I told him that I am a transgender woman who is also intersex. After that I was hoping he would stop asking me questions but he then started asking me what my genitals looked like and if I had a penis and a vagina though he used the words dick and pussy because of course he did. I told him he was making me uncomfortable and to please stop talking to me and that my genitals are none of his business. He then became angry and called me faggot and told me and I quote him “I should ram my dick in your mouth to teach you a lesson you little bitch!” At this point the bus showed up and I ran to the bus doors past him where I tried to tell the driver to not let him on but the driver said he didn’t see anything so there was nothing he could do. The whole bus ride the man glared at me and when the bus came to my stop near my apartment I ran from the bus to my door.no comments
It was a Saturday night and I was walking home alone from a bar on Whyte Ave. I only had to walk a few blocks so I figured I would be fine. As soon as I turned off Whyte I saw a man spot me walking alone. He immediately pivoted and stopped walking in the direction he was heading and walked towards me. I continued down 105st to my apartment. The man introduced himself to me saying that he was from Italy and then started complaining about “Canadian girls”. Out of fear, I was nice to him and entertained his conversation. Because we were all alone on a dark road I didn’t want to find out what he might do if I told him to leave me alone. After just one block of walking, he forcefully grabbed my face and started to kiss me. He was holding my head so tight that I couldn’t even breathe. I managed to break free and start walking faster down the street. He continued to follow me and did it again. This time I had to punch him in the groin to get away. I’m not sure why he decided to leave me alone after that. At that point we were even more isolated and he could have easily done a lot of damage to me. The thing that makes me sick is that it was too dark for me to get a good look at him so I had no physical description to tell the police. That is the last time I will ever go out near Whyte Ave by myself again. Even if it’s just for a few blocks.no comments